What’s going on!?!
Simon is good at dolloping, apparently!
What's going on!?! Are we losing the will to live?
In the last week, I have written five readings for people who have found themselves stuck in their normal life. Each of them had a kind of "desperation" in their messages to me and at the same time it felt like they had given up on themselves. They all wanted something to happen, just to get them out of the feeling that they are going crazy with the same old thing happening every day. The same stresses, same arguments, same worries, same, same, same.
I get it and I am sure we have all been there, maybe you're in that place now? But there is a way out of it that doesn't mean you have to blow up your relationship, sell everything and move to Thailand, have an affair, try to claw back the body you used to have, or buy a Porsche. These are the actual, real-life examples of what clients have told me they want to do.
Okay, each of the people behind the readings has their own story to tell but is it really necessary to be so dramatic? No, the drama is the extreme action we think we need to take in order to jump out of the groove we have found ourselves in. But the urge to grab the sledgehammer (or the Porsche keys) is just a symptom. It’s the panic button we press when we're so close to our own lives that we can't see any of the exits.
You don't need to blow your life up. You just need perspective - and for someone to be honest with you.
There is no “one size fits all” solution to this problem. But there is a common way forward and it begins with taking a time-out, escaping your life for just 30 minutes. In those 30 minutes, you need to be away from other people, breathe, remember who you are, not as a mother or lover and definitely not as what you do for work. You need to remember what your name is, remember some of the enjoyable things you have done during your life, remember that you are still alive. That’s where it all starts.
I can tell you more, point you in the right direction and give you some tools to use, but I can’t do it on Facebook. Everyone is different and it would become way too long and no one would have time to read it. But I promise you, there are easier ways to feel alive and happy, than blowing your life up.
In every one of those five readings last week, we found the real reason they were stuck. And the solution wasn't a dramatic explosion. Sometimes, a different perspective and a big dollop of truth and reality are what is needed to jump you out of your groove, not an affair or moving to Thailand.
I’m good at giving big dollops of truth and reality, I rely on our (dead) friends and relatives on the other side of life to provide perspective :-)
Simon
PS. If you are stuck in that "same, same, same" groove and feeling that frustrated desperation, I can help. Send me an email.
